The second place fantasies come from is trauma. Now trauma is a hard one because there’s a lot of work that goes into dealing with trauma, and into coming into a healthy place, but specifically with sexual trauma, it’s such a confusing thing for people to experience, because they know they’re being violated. They know that this is wrong, but you still feel the pleasure. You still feel the excitement in your sexual organs, that you’d feel in a healthy sexual experience. And so there’s this that part of trauma that marks us, and we never forget it, and so often when people go years after the trauma, they start going back to this fantasy that’s reliving the abuse that they had.
Matt Cline
For more, see 4 Causes Of Sexual Fantasies And Lustful Thoughts (Matt Cline).
