Taking a brief moment to acknowledge a small numerical milestone in the history of the blog. In April of 2023, NoToPorn eclipsed 150,000 total pageviews! This was an ambitious goal we set at the beginning of the year. Thank to your loyal readership and steady increases in traffic, we...

When we think that every little bad thing that happens to us during the week is a result of some recent sin we committed, we project on God (and the world) the human trait of impulsivity. This tendency is often fueled by inner feelings of guilt and victimhood, rather...

People often judge others harshly for two reasons: 1-) a lack of similar life experiences, often traumatic; and 2-) the belief, conscious or subconscious, that traumatic life experiences always owe to some personal defect, mistakes, or shortcomings. That is, a failure to appreciate the unique challenges that people face,...

Men are biologically no less emotional than women. However, the median man tends to express that emotion differently. For example, men are notorious for keeping their emotions to themselves—until they don’t. Some of the most extreme emotional outbursts you will ever see are carried out by men. When they say...

And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.Ephesians 4:30 This idea is unique to Christianity, as far as I can tell. How could a man cause pain to the heart of God? Do sheep cause pain to lions? Can a butterfly threaten...

Regret is often a manifestation of human pride. When we experience regret, we typically wish we had more of at least one of three things in the past—knowledge, power, or wisdom. The truth is only God possesses all of these attributes ad infinitum at any point in time. Evolution is...

Here’s a thought: Any “brand of holiness” that makes no mention of power, love, or happiness is a fraud. The Bible reiterates time and again that holiness is the path to human freedom and flourishing. Why, then, do so many people identify holiness with boring rules, legalism, and rigidity? On one...

We often think of the misery that sins like stealing cause other people, and understandably so. Nothing materially and psychologically damages people quite like the experience of malice from another human being. However, wherever thievery is present, there is no one more miserable than the thieves themselves. I recall an...

Western culture is obsessed with the idea of leading. I can't remember how many times my teachers in high school and college talked about leadership, as if everybody was called to be a leader in every season of life. The problem is the numbers don't add up. If everyone...

Most of us were taught to view diet solely through the lens of our own gratification, but diet is actually an act of worship to God. In the Old Testament, what the Hebrews ate was as morally significant as everything else they said and did. In the New Testament,...

Fixed a bug with the contact form today. I apologize if anyone tried to reach out during the last few months but did not receive a response. Everything is good to go now. Contact form

Entitlement is the worst legacy of many social institutions, including the church. Many people are angry because they were taught to have false expectations about God, people, and the world. When expectation and reality do not line up, the end result is disappointment, and disappointment is one of the...

Once upon a time, there was a Chinese farmer who lost a horse. Ran away. And all the neighbors came around that evening and said, "That's too bad." And he said, "Maybe." The next day the horse came back and brought seven wild horses with it. And all the...

People we label as “mean” are typically people whose predominant life experience has been one of negative emotion (i.e. pain), oftentimes dating back to their childhood or some life trauma. In our interactions with them, we can choose to fight fire with fire, or we can take the path...

Hello all. Just writing to let you know the site has officially been moved to a new server. If you noticed any bugs the last few days, that is the reason why. Things should be smooth from here on out. I will be rolling out some new features in...

Everyone wants to talk about the glory of King David, how he went from being a despised shepherd boy to a king; earned a reputation as “a man after God’s own heart;” defeated many enemies, including Goliath; had a city named after him; was an ancestor of Jesus Christ;...

Recently, the blog's traffic has increased quite substantially. Thanks to readers like you, we're now averaging well over 100+ pageviews per day, whereas we were getting maybe a third of that early last year. Feel free to share articles or quotes with others as you see fit. If you...

For everyone who has been born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world—our faith. (1 John 5:4). What does it mean to overcome the world? Life is a challenge. Many of you reading this have already walked through various traumas, trials, and...

Our brain is not designed to make us happy in the future. As soon as we achieve goal X, or good thing Y happens to us, our brain works to bring us back to homeostasis. Fantasizing about future happiness is a trap. Happiness can only be found by being...

In Luke 16, Jesus told a fascinating parable about a dishonest manager of a rich man's estate. When the dishonest manager found out he was about to get fired for wasting the rich man's possessions, he went out and made deals with people who owed the rich man money....

Let’s imagine that your water were contaminated with a carcinogen (cancer-causing agent). You don’t know it, and so you drink it every day, month after month, year after year. Then, 20 years later, you feel a sharp pain in your stomach. You go to the doctor, they do tests,...

Prayer might be the most underutilized weapon in the battle for integrity. We desire to be loving. We desire to be pure. We desire to be strong—all attributes perfected in the divine. We strive to change, as we should, but we want to make sure we aren’t doing anything...

The Bible says “Be angry and do not sin.” Do you know what comes after that? “Do not let the sun go down on your anger.” The idea that people should walk around righteously angry all the time is not only terrible for health and relationships, it is unbiblical. The...

In Luke 17, Jesus healed ten lepers, but only one came back to thank him. Leprosy was like a plague in that day. Lepers were physically isolated from the community and lived in social alienation. I’m sure the other nine experienced some measure of gratitude, but only one was...

Human beings need help interpreting reality. Remember John the Baptist? His call was to prepare people for the coming of Jesus. If Jesus had just shown up, with no foreman, no primer, no context, people would likely not have been able to fully appreciate his work and mission. The same...

Sex is supposed to be a social activity. You give and receive. There’s reciprocity. There’s love. Lust doesn’t care about any of that. Lust is a symptom and source of selfishness. And selfishness is a leading factor of misery in the world. The sexual area has a deep influence...

Quick note I wanted to send out letting you know a new article will be posted every Thursday for the foreseeable future, typically early in the morning. Some weeks there will be an additional article from a guest or myself (click here to make a guest post submission!) ...

The word of the day is forgiveness. I challenge you and me to forgive at least one person today. It’s good for our physical and emotional health, and it’s God express will for our lives. The same hand we extend forgiveness with is the same hand we receive it...

Wanted to give you guys a quick update! As some of you already know, I decided to renew the blog this week under Walk In Integrity instead of Defeat Lust. I’ve always believed that all areas of life are connected, and I want that to be crystal clear from...